This is so true. You might have to look a little bit harder to find it, but there is something good each and every day. It might be something as trivial as watching a hummingbird at the feeder or watching your cat do it’s morning stretch (and then sit by the food bowl meowling until you fill it!!)
Once, when my daughter was really depressed and so negative about absolutely everything and anything, I told her to get a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. On the left hand side write the word NEGATIVE and on the right, the word POSITIVE.
She had to write down the first negative thought that came into her head. THEN, before she could write down another negative one, she had to put down a positive thing…..it could be anything like what kind of chocolate bar you like or TV show, book or something that she was good at (karate, tennis), it was a nice day, she liked the cooing of the doves….anything. She could have easily filled up the negative side but this made her stop and think about the good stuff too. This was years ago and we didn’t realize at the time that she was suffering from depression…..simply thought it was one of the “teen year” things.
This probably wouldn’t work for someone that is truly clinically depressed but every now and again, for those that have bad days/good days……..or bad/good hours…..sometimes doing this can really change your mood.
It’s impossible to be happy and positive every hour of every day but it’s also not good to be sad and negative a lot of time either. Sometimes you just can’t help it and that’s OK……we all need those moments…..but figuring out when enough is enough is the trick, at least for me. That’s when I have to get up and change my focus…..find that good thing whatever it might be. It’s not easy all the time but it works most of the time.
Today is laundry day…..some habits are hard to break even when you’re retired!!…..I bought some lavender water spray for my bedding…..as silly as it sounds, I can’t wait for them to come out of the dryer to try this. It also motivated me to get my laundry done!!
The good stuff doesn’t have to be heavy, deep thought provoking stuff…like being thankful for a happy, healthy family, which I’m always grateful for….. just simple things that make you happy or feel better or add a little excitement to the day (yes, laundry can do that for me…..at least the ironing bit).