What to do, what to do???
I really don’t like that recliner….Ken’s recliner. It was his favorite chair. It made me angry…..more than once.
I never liked that chair to begin with and in the end it just seemed to make me dislike it even more.
Twelve or fifteen years ago we’d had the TV room carpet replaced and gotten rid of the old furniture that was down there. We’d bought new bookshelves, bought a new TV that we could put on the wall over the fireplace to give us more room and just generally tidied it up.
We’d bought a fairly nice black leather sofa which was pretty comfy in the store, but I guess that one had already had a lot of bums on it to wear it in. Ours was not very comfy….especially after sitting on it for a while. And the bumpffy thing on the top of the back made you kind of look down instead of up…..which was not a good thing with TV over the fireplace!
He came home from work one day and said he was going to stop by the La Z Boy store because they were having a big sale and he thought he’d have a look at some recliners. The next day he came home and said he’d found one….good deal, regular over $1000 on sale for half price. We had talked about getting one at one point and had even gone and looked at some…..some very nice leather ones that would go good with the sofa. So I had just assumed……
The next day I come home from work and there, in our TV room, sat the ungliest recliner I’d ever seen in my life! If was kind of velour-ish and BLUE. We had absolutely nothing in our house at the time that was blue….certainly not this blue. I hated it and told him so. It was a pretty comfy chair, I must admit but U G L Y! And HUGE.
Good guy that he was, he took it back and came home with another one that was black and burgundy but still velour-ish and still HUGE. He’d tried out the leather one but thought it just too “cold”. I didn’t like this one any more than the blue one, but at least it matched, somewhat….AND he was the one that was going to be using it! I was still not a happy camper and told him so. I had really thought he was getting a leather one…..especially for that price. It is deluxe as far a recliners go, I guess, but I didn’t like it and still don’t.
He loved that chair! And after he got sick that was where he spent a lot of his time. I didn’t begrudge him that except when he was supposed to be getting out and about, getting some exercise, keeping flexible and all that. He’d sit for hours on end starting with after lunch. Sometimes it was really hard to get him to get up and moving around. If you sit anywhere for long enough everything starts to seize up, making getting up more and more difficult. Moving around, walking, riding the recumbent bike, exercise of any kind is supposed to build up your immune system….I tried to encourage him to do it. And he even admitted himself that he felt better when he’d done something other than sit in that comfy chair all day. I wanted to throw that chair out so many times, I can’t even remember…..it was too comfy.
But when you wake up feeling crappy it’s hard sometimes to get motivated, even when you know it will make you feel better later. I understand that now. I tried to be encouraging without being pushy. I can’t say it worked too well.
So I have a love/hate relationship with this chair. As much as I hated it, he loved it. I would love to throw it in a dumpster somewhere but that just seems so wrong because it was such a part of his life that last year. That’s where he was the most comfortable…..that’s where he always wanted to be. The grandkids loved cuddling with him in that chair….it was big enough for him and all 3 of them.
Just what do I do with this chair? I am redoing that room and after I’m finished it will go in there even less than it did before but, I think besides his tux, this will be one of the hardest things to let go. I don’t want it. I do want it….no, I don’t want it.
It’ll be a while before I am finished down there and will need to start thinking about new furniture….maybe I’ll have this dilemma sorted out in my head by then……
L.